Dammit, lost another friend. - UK-Muscle Body Building Community

**hackskii** · 16-06-2005, 10:45 PM

Last Thursday I had a friend from work die.
I talked to him that afternoon and a short time later he died of a heart attack.
I remember the conversation, what he was wearing and everything explicitly.
He was my age @ 45 and a family man that didnt smoke, drink, or do anything (he didnt lift either).
He left behind 2 teenagers.
He died watching his daughter run in a track meet.

No today 1 week later, I lost another friend to a heart attack at work he was in his 50s and died after they started to give him bypass surgery.
His heart was weak from being diabetic.

Saddest part was his brother used to be my Boss at work here. I e-mailed him and asked him about his brother (I heard he was in the hospital).
His brother e-mailed me back and asked what I heard that he had not talked to him in a couple of years.
After I told him what I heard at work he made some calls then e-mailed me back that his brother died.

Now, I dont know what happened between them but now he can never talk to him again.
I feel bad as I was the one who alearted him about his own brother, not his family.
He made a comment in the e-mail that he loved his brother and now I feel that there is some guilt going on.

Guys, life is too short not to live.
As you get older, you will lose many friends.
When you are young you feel immune from death.
But death can happen in any given moment.

Take the time to complimant someone, smile at them, or just tell someone that you love them.
This might be your last chance to do that.
Who knows you just might feel a little less guilt if something was to happen.

Sorry for sounding sentimental but I am right now.

You guys are a great bunch of guys, just thought I would throw that out there in case one of you might have forgotten.
:beer1:

**Jimmy** · 16-06-2005, 10:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hackskii

Take the time to complimant someone, smile at them, or just tell someone that you love them.
This might be your last chance to do that.
Who knows you just might feel a little less guilt if something was to happen.

:

I just text my mum to tell her i love her

nice post hacks

DB · 16-06-2005, 11:04 PM

damn nice post big man...

my condolences

Killerkeane · 16-06-2005, 11:08 PM

:boohoo:
Nice post Hackskii, i often think that i am immune to death and i dont have to worry about it.
Touching post my man.

Truewarrior1 · 16-06-2005, 11:09 PM

i know what you mean man, being touched by death somehow is a reminder of how fragile life really is and always makes me that bit more humble , caring and less of the b*stard i can be at times. sometimes i have dreams about people close to me dying or me dying and some of them feel like premonitions which really scares me so you've gotta really hold onto the best people in your life and make sure you appreciate them while you can. i recently broke up with a really close long time friend over something which seems a bit trivial now and makes me want to call her, but she has some real problems and i dont know if i can help her and be there for her especially since last week she called me up crying and upset and i was fairly cold to her. i can just be so emotionally detached at times but now i think, if she died tomorrow how would i feel.

Lee · 17-06-2005, 01:35 AM

this sort of thing brings everyone back down to earth with a bump.

my condelences Hackskii, best wishes to the familys and friends.

**hackskii** · 17-06-2005, 01:54 AM

Wow guys, I am really touched.
This thing really grabbed me by the shorts.
I had tears in my eyes at work and actually left early from work.
This had my brain scrambled with many questions in my mind, none which can be answered.
I accept this as a part of life.

Man, I am so thankfull to be alive, have such a great family, job, health, etc....

Even if I did not have these things, to be alive is still a gift, one which I can't give to myself but I can give of myself to others.

Captain Hero · 17-06-2005, 06:25 AM

damn Hacks thats real bad, my condolences my friend.

JohnO · 17-06-2005, 08:21 AM

Great post and a good reminder to us all, family loved ones and friends never leave them on an argument. Even if your ****ed with them tell them you love them caus you never know.

the_gre8t_1ne · 17-06-2005, 09:18 AM

Gr8 post, sorry to hear that, my condelences Hackskii, best wishes to the friends and family.

Roid Devil · 17-06-2005, 09:55 AM

nice post...sorry to here about your losses m8

Matt

megatron · 17-06-2005, 09:56 AM

sobering

Foz1 · 17-06-2005, 09:57 AM

Sorry to hear your bad news bad, you have my deepest condolences.

samurai69 · 17-06-2005, 10:01 AM

Nice post Hacks, condolences to the family.

Its very sobering

Just learnt this week that a young girl at the school where my wife works has only a few more days to live, after a brave and long fight with a rare form of cancer (she is only 6)

NikiE · 17-06-2005, 11:17 AM

Hey hack, im sorry to hear that. I hope your ok though...
Ive lost people very close to me unexpectedly and your right, you dont realise how important people are until thier gone.

The only thing good to have come out of it is that me and ALL my family are a lot closer now. I tell my mum and dad i love them all the time and even my brother, who is 17 and even he tells me (and texts me when he is drunk to tell me, Bless!!).

I cant imagine my life without any of them and it really scares me that oneday that will happen....

16-06-2005, 10:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
hackskii UK-Muscle Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Sunny Southern California U.S.A. Posts: 23,717	Dammit, lost another friend. Last Thursday I had a friend from work die. I talked to him that afternoon and a short time later he died of a heart attack. I remember the conversation, what he was wearing and everything explicitly. He was my age @ 45 and a family man that didnt smoke, drink, or do anything (he didnt lift either). He left behind 2 teenagers. He died watching his daughter run in a track meet. No today 1 week later, I lost another friend to a heart attack at work he was in his 50s and died after they started to give him bypass surgery. His heart was weak from being diabetic. Saddest part was his brother used to be my Boss at work here. I e-mailed him and asked him about his brother (I heard he was in the hospital). His brother e-mailed me back and asked what I heard that he had not talked to him in a couple of years. After I told him what I heard at work he made some calls then e-mailed me back that his brother died. Now, I dont know what happened between them but now he can never talk to him again. I feel bad as I was the one who alearted him about his own brother, not his family. He made a comment in the e-mail that he loved his brother and now I feel that there is some guilt going on. Guys, life is too short not to live. As you get older, you will lose many friends. When you are young you feel immune from death. But death can happen in any given moment. Take the time to complimant someone, smile at them, or just tell someone that you love them. This might be your last chance to do that. Who knows you just might feel a little less guilt if something was to happen. Sorry for sounding sentimental but I am right now. You guys are a great bunch of guys, just thought I would throw that out there in case one of you might have forgotten. :beer1: __________________ "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." - George Carlin Scott To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

16-06-2005, 11:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
DB UK-Muscle Moderator Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: SW London Posts: 11,439	damn nice post big man... my condolences __________________ DB To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. often imitated never duplicated To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. DB sleeps with a night light. Not because DB is afraid of the dark, but the dark is afraid of DB. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

16-06-2005, 11:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
Killerkeane The Geezer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Somerset although im not proud lol. Posts: 2,978	:boohoo: Nice post Hackskii, i often think that i am immune to death and i dont have to worry about it. Touching post my man. __________________ Fortes Fortuna Paratus Mens-Fortune favours the prepared mind.:amen:

16-06-2005, 11:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
Truewarrior1 Hulking Out! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: london Posts: 1,830	i know what you mean man, being touched by death somehow is a reminder of how fragile life really is and always makes me that bit more humble , caring and less of the b*stard i can be at times. sometimes i have dreams about people close to me dying or me dying and some of them feel like premonitions which really scares me so you've gotta really hold onto the best people in your life and make sure you appreciate them while you can. i recently broke up with a really close long time friend over something which seems a bit trivial now and makes me want to call her, but she has some real problems and i dont know if i can help her and be there for her especially since last week she called me up crying and upset and i was fairly cold to her. i can just be so emotionally detached at times but now i think, if she died tomorrow how would i feel. __________________ When You Dance With The Devil You Wait For The Song To Stop. Currently HULKING OUT!

17-06-2005, 01:54 AM	#7 (permalink)
hackskii UK-Muscle Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Sunny Southern California U.S.A. Posts: 23,717	Wow guys, I am really touched. This thing really grabbed me by the shorts. I had tears in my eyes at work and actually left early from work. This had my brain scrambled with many questions in my mind, none which can be answered. I accept this as a part of life. Man, I am so thankfull to be alive, have such a great family, job, health, etc.... Even if I did not have these things, to be alive is still a gift, one which I can't give to myself but I can give of myself to others. __________________ "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." - George Carlin Scott To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

17-06-2005, 01:35 AM	#6 (permalink)
Lee Made in Liverpool Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Liverpool Posts: 1,046	this sort of thing brings everyone back down to earth with a bump. my condelences Hackskii, best wishes to the familys and friends.

17-06-2005, 08:21 AM	#9 (permalink)
JohnO Looking Freaky Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 601	Great post and a good reminder to us all, family loved ones and friends never leave them on an argument. Even if your ****ed with them tell them you love them caus you never know.

17-06-2005, 09:18 AM	#10 (permalink)
the_gre8t_1ne Your Friendly neighbourhood pusha! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: The Ghetto (West, London) Posts: 4,066	Gr8 post, sorry to hear that, my condelences Hackskii, best wishes to the friends and family. __________________ Know your role and shut your mouth! or I'll layeth the SMACK DOWN on your Candy ASS!! If you smelalalalalalooouuuu To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. the gre8t 1ne.......is cooking!? To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. also find me at To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

17-06-2005, 09:55 AM	#11 (permalink)
Roid Devil Banned Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: South Wales Posts: 944	nice post...sorry to here about your losses m8 Matt

17-06-2005, 09:57 AM	#13 (permalink)
Foz1 Gym Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Manchester Posts: 339	Sorry to hear your bad news bad, you have my deepest condolences.

17-06-2005, 10:01 AM	#14 (permalink)
samurai69 Banned Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Mid Portugal - by the sea Posts: 3,076	Nice post Hacks, condolences to the family. Its very sobering Just learnt this week that a young girl at the school where my wife works has only a few more days to live, after a brave and long fight with a rare form of cancer (she is only 6)

17-06-2005, 11:17 AM	#15 (permalink)
NikiE UK-Muscle's Top Babe Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Ilfracombe! Posts: 1,524	Hey hack, im sorry to hear that. I hope your ok though... Ive lost people very close to me unexpectedly and your right, you dont realise how important people are until thier gone. The only thing good to have come out of it is that me and ALL my family are a lot closer now. I tell my mum and dad i love them all the time and even my brother, who is 17 and even he tells me (and texts me when he is drunk to tell me, Bless!!). I cant imagine my life without any of them and it really scares me that oneday that will happen.... __________________ I'll go to the gym...one day!! :p Maybe to use the sun bed!! ;)

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