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22-12-2004, 07:37 PM
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| Getting HUGE! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: england
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 | right time for home truths right guys, here you go guys the reason i haven't been around much and well the reason i am like i am at the moment i am very depressed, i have hit it hard recently, my car got broken into, i am finding it hard to deal with singledom at christmas time, diet slipped training has now stopped, money is low, now out of work, and my dream job came up, i had 3 interviews and didn't get it everything has gone, have lost lots of weight, feel ****, and depressed, and well i would rather lie and just wallow then anyything else, i want to train again but nothing is there, nothing i feel i have not future, i have no job future, no career path and i feel like at 20 i am loosing precious time i do not have, i want a career a job where i can work hard and my way up but it seems nowehere, i am alone, bored and seem to just have nothing, i just hate myself right now! i am not eating right, and as i say no training! and worst of all i have told no one, i cannot bring myself to do it! i just feel like i am not happy and i have nothing to be happy about! happiness is all i want in life, however with no good job, or no job, no money and no one to really talk to i feel like i have nothing, and i have just lost everything, i just don't feel anything except sad! i want to train i want to be good i just don't know anymore guys, sorry i just didn't know who to talk to! and i needed to tell someone, this time of year is just killing me off! sorry for rambling!
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22-12-2004, 07:49 PM
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| UK-Muscle Male Animal  | You have us Robin! 
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22-12-2004, 08:20 PM
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| UK-Muscle Moderator  Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Beer me
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   | You're 20. You're single. You don't have any attachments. You don't have any responsibility. You have your whole life ahead of you. You can do whatever you want. Many, if not most people who are not single, who have a career, and who are much older would give all of that to be in your situation. Make some new years resolutions. If you don't want to be single anymore, join a dating agency. You want a job, apply for them - lots of them (firstly most people who don't have experience need to apply for dozens or even hundreds before they get a shot - don't get put off by rejection. Also there's no such thing as the perfect job). Take the rest of the year off from things - relax - and come back next year with a new diet, new training routine and a new plan. Bored?.. Find some hobbies. What appeals to you? Martial arts? Football? Rugby? Try new things out. I'm not trying to belittle what you're going through cos we all feel like that sometimes - but try to look on the positive side. You'll feel **** loads better for it. |
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22-12-2004, 08:32 PM
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| Gym Addict  Join Date: Apr 2003
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| Cheer up Robin! I have 3 kids, a full time SH#T Job, and I'm going to school. I know how you feel, but I'd give my left Testicle to be you right now. Remember time heals everything. This is just another bump in the road. Keep your chin up and keep trying, no one succeeds with out failure-NO ONE! |
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22-12-2004, 08:34 PM
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| UK-Muscle Moderator  Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Home!!
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 | Excellent post Big mate. Listen Rob dont concentrate on what you dont have concentrate on what you do have ie your health, youth on your side, intellegance, mates on here who want to help you etc etc once you get into this way of thinking you will realise you have more that alot of people mate. Also as Big says concentrate on finding ways on getting out of your hole. if you fail the first time try again then if your are knocked down again get back up. Positve thinking is the key mate. It will change your hole perspective on your life. You may have no money but you are rich in so many ways mate. Try for 7 days from now and over Christmas to not dwell on any negative thoughts at all. Its very hard and you will have bad thoughts but dont dwell on them. If you fail then start the 7 days again and when you have cracked that you will have formed the habit of positve thinking mate. You have more than alot of other people mate so chin up and all that. Shoot me an email anytime mate or im on msn most of the time too which is dungie203@hotmail.com.
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22-12-2004, 09:06 PM
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| UK-Muscle Moderator  Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: SW London
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| yo man keep ur chin up! as big said ur free young and single join some sports club like karate etc meet some new people and u'll soon cheer up mate...dont feel too down
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22-12-2004, 11:39 PM
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| Looking Freaky  Join Date: Aug 2004
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| Hey Robin mate! everything is not as bad as it seems champ. Try and find a goal,make it a small goal or somthing you know you can achieve with a little hard work. Everybody gets down from time to time, life is just like that somtimes. Try and turn a negative into a positive, DONT LET ANYONE GET YOU DOWN!!! get down the gym and let off some steam, set a goal-enter a bodybuilding show or powerlifting meet and have fun. At twenty the world is yours for the taking, you say your single get out and meet some people, but most of all have fun. The only person thats stopping you is you champ!! i find it a handful everyday to survive juggling a 10 hour stressful job, a near impossible girlfriend and a training routine that would kill a normal man, but at the end of the day i just keep looking on the brightside. Which is exactly what you should be doing. If you want to chat mail me on chrisjenkins330@hotmail.com |
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23-12-2004, 12:30 AM
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| A diamond in the rough  Join Date: Nov 2004
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| Life is tough - there are ups and there are downs, look back 5 years and you didn't know where you would be today in the same way now you don't know where you will be in 5 years time, you are still so young and still in control of your own destiny. Just think - when things do start going right for you (and they will) you are going to appreciate them so much more because of these bad times. The light at the end of the tunnel could be closer than you think but you've got to start looking for it. Think of all the things you have got going for you. Look how many people have bothered to reply to this thread - thats because they care about you mate and they care about how you are feeling - thats pretty special. You had three interviews for your dream job - doesn't that show you how close you came to getting it? - that is a positive thing it shows that that job is not beyond you or out of your reach. It didn't work out this time but there are a million other jobs just as good, and you ARE going to get one of them. Also don't be ashamed that things aren't going great and that you are finding it tough - everybody goes through it as some point and people are a lot more understanding than you might think. Christmas can be tough - but you are tougher. Where you are today is does not show who you are - it just shows who you have been in the past, its where you are going to be in the future that counts. Things ARE going to get better, Next Christmas you will look back at this post and see that I was right, just stick with it don't give up, keep applying for jobs, get yourself back in the gym, ring up some old friends and meet them for a drink, dont stress about not having a girl - when you've been married ten years you will wish for these days back! If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; from If... Rudyard Kipling Don't dwell on where you are now - focus on where you are going to be.
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23-12-2004, 12:58 AM
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| UK-Muscle Male Animal | Robin, you know you are my favorite. I have only said it about 20 times. You are fine mate. Mate here is my msn account and just add me. That goes for everybody on this board. wingdock98@yahoo.com this is for msn. Also my yahoo account email.
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23-12-2004, 12:58 AM
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| Looking Freaky  Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Wisbech
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 | Robin - The advice the other guys have posted is spot on - we all go through rough patches at one time or another - that as they say is life.... if you were to look at the 'rich list' check out the number of the people who have been to prision or who have been bankrupt - the difference between sucess and failure is perseverance. You should ask Lorain for some advice re NLP - I've found it to help me when I've been in difficult times. |
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23-12-2004, 01:08 AM
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| The Geezer  Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Somerset although im not proud lol.
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| good confident post there robin good man! Look mate, your young, single, healthy. You have your whole life in front of you. Things will improve. As long as you have your health you'll be okay mate.
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23-12-2004, 10:54 AM
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| Getting HUGE!  Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: E-Sussex UK
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| Hope the other guys comments have encouraged you Robin, just to make sure, you aren't doing any gear atm right? and you aren't on PCT? Let us know if you are as gear can have some severe psychological consequences. You sound like you are suffering from some reactive depression, that is quite normal considering what you have been through but do not be alone with this. You have us as Winger etc rightly said, hopefully you have some family, friends? If not then these people can help http://www.samaritans.org.uk/ councelling at a time like this can work wonders and help you prepare for lifes future dissapointments. Just remember this is temporary! you will pull through it, god I didn't get on the right career path till I was 24 and at 30 I went back to University!! Opportunities haven't stopped knocking cos of my age mate, I am 31 now with an 18 year old GF never been happier.Have you thought about going back to education possibly? what are you qualified to do? I am ex-services and I can tell you they have some great career opportunities, especially for people who have yet to find 'direction' in life. They will pay you a pretty penny too If you want any more advice on the above let me know! and importantly if you are on gear or PCT let us know that immediately. Hope the turnaround comes soon mate SD
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23-12-2004, 12:54 PM
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| Looking Freaky Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: N.Wales
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| robin fella im in more-a-less the same situation and im loving things at the moment, i just moved back in with my mum im 20 in feb im single atm, not working and no career sorted as of yet, u shud enjoy this time mateespecialy over christmans mate goodluck with things ;) my addy on msn is robinette6037@hotmail.com incase u bored and wanna chat or anything, goes for anyone on ere like |
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23-12-2004, 02:51 PM
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| UK-M's Mascot  Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Staffordshire
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 | no worries Robin, you're not the only one, i'm 21, no job and single as well (ok i'm still a student but I haven't even had any offers for an interview from the jobs i've applied to for after i finish uni) Forget about the car, it's only a lump of metal. ok, you're single and want someone to be with for christmas but there's plenty of people out there in their 30's, 40's, 50's still single so its not that bad. As for you career, it's never too late to start a new career (I know a few people who have just started going to college at 30+). Just forget all these things behind and pop down to the gym. I know it's hard but you'll have something to smile about after going to the gym!
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