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Carlos901 · 10-07-2006, 06:49 PM

well as most of you know my x girlfriend is pregnant, and thease last few weeks we are getting on realy well, the other day i was talking to her mam and she said that my x realy wants me to go to the scan and stuff, anyway i get a txt today saying she is scared, so me been me said dont be scared etc etc, everything will be ok. then i get a txt saying "everything was ok when we both had everything planned" so i said yeh, its crap how things have worked out but we cant turn back time. then i get the most bizare txt "dont read into this but there r sum days i do miss you" now she is 4 months pregnant, do u think this is just her hormones?

Carlos901 · 10-07-2006, 06:53 PM

just got another txt saying "i rely didnt mean to hurt you" bahhhh, everything is going ok with me and her family (apart from her dad) so i dont realy want to talk about it to her and get me self all worked up again.

**hackskii** · 10-07-2006, 07:06 PM

It is hormones, I think it might even be progesterone.

Oh man, after the baby and post partum depression hits you will be the evil man that got her pregnant.

Watch out bro, they have no idea what they say when the hormones swing from high to low.

Be very carefull.
All this is subject to change without notice

Carlos901 · 10-07-2006, 07:20 PM

thought it was that, tommorow i will probably get a txt saying im an asshole or something

jared · 10-07-2006, 07:46 PM

My Girlfriends 5 months pregents, shes all over the place. She gets in stupid moods for no reason, she even told me that if she sees me looking at other girls, she will cut out my eyes. Mental lol

Ralphy · 10-07-2006, 07:51 PM

Hormones!!!!!!!!!!!!

Carlos, its great that you're getting on with your ex for the childs sake but remember how much she hurt you a couple of months back. Dont get confused by her hormonal talk mate & keep strong.

Best wishes pal.

Keyser Soze · 10-07-2006, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Carlos901

thought it was that, tommorow i will probably get a txt saying im an asshole or something

Probably just the excess oestrogen talking/texting today, making her inner cavewoman latch on to a potential provider even harder than normal.

Also remember, their hormones flood through them even more during pregnancy than before it, so if you think she was ditzy before, you can expect wild swings in policy now.

KS

marso · 10-07-2006, 09:10 PM

Carlos, I fear your in no mans and you can't do right for wrong. She is more than likely feeling very vunerable and does miss the cloesness that you shared, however this could be short lived. All you can mate is be there for her when she needs you, but get on with your own life as well.

When things are tough remember this: She's an ex for a reason. When someone first told me that about my ex I was unsure how to take it, but when it sank in I realised that it was pointless living in the past. Remember you only get one shot at this life mate and it ain't worth wasting it wishing what could have been.

I still get on very well with my ex fiancee but I have good reason to, as we went through a lot as couple and it brought us very close initially, but the same thing eventually caused us to drift apart and break up. Trust me mate when you've seen your fiancee's 13 year old sister (my god daughter) die from terminal bowel cancer in less than six months it gives you a clear perspective on life and you don't want to waste a single day.

I hope things work out for you both.

Sincerely

Paul.

Captain Hero · 10-07-2006, 10:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by marso

Carlos, I fear your in no mans and you can't do right for wrong. She is more than likely feeling very vunerable and does miss the cloesness that you shared, however this could be short lived. All you can mate is be there for her when she needs you, but get on with your own life as well.

When things are tough remember this: She's an ex for a reason. When someone first told me that about my ex I was unsure how to take it, but when it sank in I realised that it was pointless living in the past. Remember you only get one shot at this life mate and it ain't worth wasting it wishing what could have been.

I still get on very well with my ex fiancee but I have good reason to, as we went through a lot as couple and it brought us very close initially, but the same thing eventually caused us to drift apart and break up. Trust me mate when you've seen your fiancee's 13 year old sister (my god daughter) die from terminal bowel cancer in less than six months it gives you a clear perspective on life and you don't want to waste a single day.

I hope things work out for you both.

Sincerely

Paul.

nice post!

bigdaftjoe · 10-07-2006, 11:00 PM

put your cards on the table (whatever they are!) see where it goes just tell the truth mate if nothing comes of it so be it but keeping it inside hurts more than letting it out

Carlos901 · 10-07-2006, 11:24 PM

i dont know how to think to be honest, we have just been txting each other for the last 2hrs, i still love her to bits even with what i went through. she was saying how much of a gr8 dad i will be and stuff. i dont know weather to take it all in or just ignore her. cause i realy dont want to get hurt again. the last txt she sent was, nite nite carl, and nite nite from the baby. so i sent a txt back saying kiss your hand and put it on your belly and say nite nite from daddy

and she txt back saying i have done it, nite nite carl. makes me so happy when she is been like that

bigdaftjoe · 11-07-2006, 12:32 AM

tell her how it makes you feel not us!!!

**hackskii** · 11-07-2006, 01:15 AM

Just be carefull Carlos.

She is pumping massive progesterone right now.
Many women feel good with that.

LondonGeezer · 11-07-2006, 02:04 AM

i say keep it kool for now.. u dont have to jump into anything.. if it continues then go ahead and spill, tell her how u feel and obviously u both want wat is best for the baby aswell and being a proper family will be best. if u both can get along and have these feelings for eachother then i wish u all the luck.

either way i wish u all the luck mate.. congratulations and goodluck!!

winger · 11-07-2006, 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Ralphy

Hormones!!!!!!!!!!!!

Carlos, its great that you're getting on with your ex for the childs sake but remember how much she hurt you a couple of months back. Dont get confused by her hormonal talk mate & keep strong.

Best wishes pal.

Ralphy is spot on.

Carlos, she kicked you to the curb not the other way around mate.
She hurt you so bad. I got a saying for you.
Once bitten twice shy. Here's another one.
Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me.

Be the best father you can be but dont trust her mate. I know you loved her but would a true loved one treat you like she did?

10-07-2006, 06:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
Carlos901 Legend Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,805	little bit confused???? well as most of you know my x girlfriend is pregnant, and thease last few weeks we are getting on realy well, the other day i was talking to her mam and she said that my x realy wants me to go to the scan and stuff, anyway i get a txt today saying she is scared, so me been me said dont be scared etc etc, everything will be ok. then i get a txt saying "everything was ok when we both had everything planned" so i said yeh, its crap how things have worked out but we cant turn back time. then i get the most bizare txt "dont read into this but there r sum days i do miss you" now she is 4 months pregnant, do u think this is just her hormones?

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10-07-2006, 06:53 PM	#2 (permalink)
Carlos901 Legend Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,805	just got another txt saying "i rely didnt mean to hurt you" bahhhh, everything is going ok with me and her family (apart from her dad) so i dont realy want to talk about it to her and get me self all worked up again.

10-07-2006, 07:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
hackskii UK-Muscle Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Sunny Southern California U.S.A. Posts: 24,337	It is hormones, I think it might even be progesterone. Oh man, after the baby and post partum depression hits you will be the evil man that got her pregnant. Watch out bro, they have no idea what they say when the hormones swing from high to low. Be very carefull. All this is subject to change without notice

10-07-2006, 07:20 PM	#4 (permalink)
Carlos901 Legend Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,805	thought it was that, tommorow i will probably get a txt saying im an asshole or something

10-07-2006, 07:46 PM	#5 (permalink)
jared Newbie Trainer Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 47	My Girlfriends 5 months pregents, shes all over the place. She gets in stupid moods for no reason, she even told me that if she sees me looking at other girls, she will cut out my eyes. Mental lol

10-07-2006, 07:51 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ralphy train alone, eat alone, sleep alone Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: E. London/Essex Posts: 892	Hormones!!!!!!!!!!!! Carlos, its great that you're getting on with your ex for the childs sake but remember how much she hurt you a couple of months back. Dont get confused by her hormonal talk mate & keep strong. Best wishes pal.

10-07-2006, 09:10 PM	#8 (permalink)
marso Gym Addict Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 108	Carlos, I fear your in no mans and you can't do right for wrong. She is more than likely feeling very vunerable and does miss the cloesness that you shared, however this could be short lived. All you can mate is be there for her when she needs you, but get on with your own life as well. When things are tough remember this: She's an ex for a reason. When someone first told me that about my ex I was unsure how to take it, but when it sank in I realised that it was pointless living in the past. Remember you only get one shot at this life mate and it ain't worth wasting it wishing what could have been. I still get on very well with my ex fiancee but I have good reason to, as we went through a lot as couple and it brought us very close initially, but the same thing eventually caused us to drift apart and break up. Trust me mate when you've seen your fiancee's 13 year old sister (my god daughter) die from terminal bowel cancer in less than six months it gives you a clear perspective on life and you don't want to waste a single day. I hope things work out for you both. Sincerely Paul.

10-07-2006, 11:00 PM	#10 (permalink)
bigdaftjoe poon star Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: sunderland Posts: 1,310	put your cards on the table (whatever they are!) see where it goes just tell the truth mate if nothing comes of it so be it but keeping it inside hurts more than letting it out

10-07-2006, 11:24 PM	#11 (permalink)
Carlos901 Legend Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,805	i dont know how to think to be honest, we have just been txting each other for the last 2hrs, i still love her to bits even with what i went through. she was saying how much of a gr8 dad i will be and stuff. i dont know weather to take it all in or just ignore her. cause i realy dont want to get hurt again. the last txt she sent was, nite nite carl, and nite nite from the baby. so i sent a txt back saying kiss your hand and put it on your belly and say nite nite from daddy and she txt back saying i have done it, nite nite carl. makes me so happy when she is been like that

11-07-2006, 12:32 AM	#12 (permalink)
bigdaftjoe poon star Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: sunderland Posts: 1,310	tell her how it makes you feel not us!!!

11-07-2006, 01:15 AM	#13 (permalink)
hackskii UK-Muscle Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Sunny Southern California U.S.A. Posts: 24,337	Just be carefull Carlos. She is pumping massive progesterone right now. Many women feel good with that.

11-07-2006, 02:04 AM	#14 (permalink)
LondonGeezer Looking Freaky Join Date: May 2006 Location: South-East London Posts: 881	i say keep it kool for now.. u dont have to jump into anything.. if it continues then go ahead and spill, tell her how u feel and obviously u both want wat is best for the baby aswell and being a proper family will be best. if u both can get along and have these feelings for eachother then i wish u all the luck. either way i wish u all the luck mate.. congratulations and goodluck!!